Betrayed . . . Disgusted . . . Angry . . . Confused . . . These are some of the words I’ve heard individuals use to describe how they felt after finding out their partner was acting out sexually. They had wondered why their partner spent an inordinate amount of time on the computer or away from home, or why their money seemed to disappear faster than it used to. They had even suspected once or twice that their partner was having an affair. But they had never guessed that they’d been played for a fool for that long. Their partner’s denial had seemed so convincing; they had even been told that they were the crazy one. But the truth had come out and now they were left to deal with the fallout.
If this is something that you have experienced, you know the chaos that this kind of revelation can bring. Out of the blue, you begin to question yourself, your relationships and especially your partner; you are faced with decisions that you never expected to encounter and, worst of all, you’re torn between wanting to tell everyone about your hurt and being afraid to tell anyone. Who would understand?
Early in my clinical career, I began to experience women coming in and telling me of their experiences with spouses that were exhibiting what seemed to be out of control sexual behavior. These women were understandably baffled, angry, hurt, and wondering what their partners were looking for that they lacked. More and more women came in with this problem, and then men came in too, exhibiting the same emotions and describing the same problem. In my search for answers and in my quest to help these individuals, I discovered a training program for something called “sexual addiction” and this soon became my goal. As a result, I have developed a passion for working with sexual addicts and their partners and this has developed into one of my specialties.
If this is something you are dealing with and you have decided to reach out for help, I would love to have the opportunity to speak with you. Please feel free to explore my web page and look at the links I have provided; and when you are ready, give me a call or send an e-mail. I look forward to hearing from you.